“Do you have a job yet?” or “Do you have a boyfriend yet?” are two of the most common questions we’re asked by family, friends and old neighbours. Above all else, most people out there spend their days worrying about two things: what they’re going to do with their life, and who they’re going to do. While I could have said this a little more eloquently (sorry mum and dad…), this especially holds true for millennials. Between classes and social life and graduating and beyond, it all comes down to these two pursuits: the job hunt and the dating hunt. Being on the persistent dating and job hunting quests pretty much 24/7, it’s no wonder they start to blur together. Whether it’s the excitement, the nerves, the potential or the heartbreak (in both cases), all your past triumphs, challenges and endeavors build up to one nail-biting and future-defining decision: s/he loves you or s/he loves you not.
The bad news? Knowing that something (or someone) you’ve busted your butt for comes down to a fateful crapshoot is pretty damn terrifying. Stepping out into the limelight with that much uncertainty… that sucks just as much.
But, here’s the good news… With the rules of one realm often applying seamlessly to the other, you’re already ahead of the game. Let’s face it: for one thing, most people out there stalk potential companies nowadays like they do their crushes and ex-beaus. Time to take advantage, shall we?
Rule #1: Put yourself out there.
Don’t just sit around on the sidelines, but don’t be too eager to get in the game either. Be brave as hell, not desperate as hell. Express interest, but play it cooool. Never forget the golden rule – like attracts like. If you continue to put your authentic self out there along with your crazy epic passions, you can rest easy knowing that something/someone equally amazing is right around the corner looking for someone just like you.
Rule #2: First impressions aren’t everything, but they’re somethin’.
Put on your best behavior as you would your best dress – “best” as in what best fits you and your personality (trying too hard doesn’t look good on anyone…) Above all, come prepared. Be engaging, and have some questions in mind. No one likes awkward silences…
Rule #3: Be yourself. And in the words of Charles Wright, “Expresssss yourself.”
At the end of the day, prospective employers and suitors alike are looking for a connection – someone who will mesh well, whether it’s with their team, customers and clients or family, friends and lifestyle. Share experiences that best exemplify your oh-so-charming personality as well as your badass strengths. And always remember: chemistry is key.
Rule #4: Looks aren’t everything.
The job or person at hand may have all the right attributes on your checklist and beyond, but if it doesn’t feel right, it ain’t right. Trust your gut above everything. If your heart isn’t in it, you shouldn’t be either.
Rule #5: Only fools rush in. When it doubt, trust Elvis.
Everyone wants a love that will last a lifetime and you should feel just as head-over-heels for your career choice as well. Do what you love, and never ever EVER settle. We’re talking about a lifetime here… remember? It’s a big ass decision.
Rule #6: If it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be.
Everything – and I mean everything – happens for a reason (a quote I probably recite much too often, but that doesn’t make it any less true). If it works out… hell yeah! If it doesn’t, it’s a blessing in disguise. The right opportunity will come in due time, so be armed and ready when it does.