Self-Care And Self-Love Are Not The Same. Here’s Why You Need Both

by Ramana Ganger

Going beyond bubble baths and spa days.

Life is an uphill battle filled with challenges and joy, and sometimes it can take a toll on you. Many of us work long hours and juggle jobs to support our dreams, as well as try to spend time with family and friends. But regardless of your tight schedule, it is important to take care of your physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing.

Self-care is not one size fits all – what you need depends on how you are feeling and your mindset. Over the years, bubble baths and spa days have been a hot recommendation, but as wonderful as these both are, self-care is not just about relaxation, but going in a lot deeper. Self-care can be using art and your creativity to tackle your overthinking, waking up extra early so you can take your time getting ready in the morning, or taking your full lunch break without working while you eat. It really depends on what works for you and what suits each of your needs.

Unlike self-care, self love is not simply a state of feeling good. It is a state of appreciation for yourself that cultivates from actions that support your growth on a physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual level. It is not something you can buy in a beauty makeover or a new wardrobe. Self-love is important to living well, and it influences how you cope with problems in life, the image you project of yourself, and who you pick as your company.

Practicing self-love can look like ditching the comparison mindset, giving up celebrity endorsed diets and diet pills, or talking to yourself positively. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept our weaknesses much better, we see our failures as a door for the next opportunity, and have less need to explain our short-comings.

Although self-care and self-love are both different, together they are a powerful force. It is important to have both of them in your life, and here’s why:

Be yourself & live your life.

Instead of wanting to be someone else and living their Instagram ‘perfect’ life, you learn to appreciate yourself. Being who you are is the ticket to pulling in the things you want most in your life. Acceptance of yourself can give you the determination to build the life YOU want to live, and make your dreams a beautiful reality.

Boost Your Confidence & Self-Esteem.

By practising self-love and self-care, you can develop a positive mindset that will ultimately boost your confidence. There are always going to be moments in life where our confidence is tested. Confidence is something we build and maintain, and this is achieved by pumping up the positivity.

Self-esteem, on the other hand, is all about your opinion of yourself, and your ability to believe in your capabilities. One of the biggest things we struggle with most in life is being true to ourselves.

When you’re assessing your self-esteem, you are evaluating your overall self-worth. It is important to remember that your overall wellness, and how you treat yourself, is a mere reflection of how you view yourself. Practising self-care can make you feel good, while practising self-love makes you appreciate yourself more. By appreciating yourself you boost your self-confidence, self-esteem, and increase your self-worth.

Develop A Positive Mindset

The power of positive thinking may feel a little cliché, but it really works like magic. Positive thinking can give you more confidence, improve your mood, and reduce stress. Starting your day with a positive affirmation, transforming negative self-talk into positive self-talk, and turning failure into lessons are the stepping stones of self-love that can lead to developing a positive mindset.

Learn To Rest, Not Quit

Sometimes when we are working on a project or searching for a new opportunity, we feel defeated when things don’t go the way we want them to, and we don’t take rejection very well. It makes us question our capabilities and feel worthless. But in all the mayhem, have you ever thought about taking rest so you can tackle things in a different way and see things with a fresh perspective?

 As a wise man once said – “if the plan doesn’t work, change the plan, not the goal.” Learn to rest, not quit, because when you return to the task or your search for a new opportunity, you can go about it differently with a new set of eyes

Allow Personal Growth

Did you know that self-love IS the starting point of personal growth? If you spend your entire day neglecting your best aspect, you are committing a monumental disservice to yourself, your life, and your future. Personal growth is happening all the time in our lives, and it is not something which we can stop nor do without.

How we show love and care for ourselves even in the most testing times can influence our ability to problem solve. Our whole life benefits from our growth – your self-esteem grows, your self-worth is boosted, your confidence soars, and you are greatly motivated to achieve your goals and dreams.

See Loneliness As A Peaceful Solitude  

When there is so much going on around us, we can interpret the beauty of silence and peacefulness of solitude as loneliness. Being lonely has been viewed in a negative light, but our time alone is really the opportunity for us to still our clattered mind, and quieten our internal stress and anxiety.

Sometimes when we need to make a big decision, we ask the people we trust for advice though after, we still we aren’t sure what to do. It is our panic and lack of trust and belief in ourselves that makes us ask around for advice, only to find ourselves in even more of a dilemma. Did it ever occur to you that you already have the answers you seek?

Realise And Increase Your Self-Worth

Self-care and self-love encourage you to sustain a healthy relationship with yourself. When you avoid things that make you feel good mentally, physically, and emotionally, you deplete your self-worth. Your self-worth and self-esteem are closely tied to the love you extend to yourself. So, when you neglect yourself and engage in negative self-talk or relentless comparisons to others, your vision of yourself will naturally crumble.

Allow Yourself To Create Your Space, Your Dreams, And Your Life

To love yourself is to trust in your own power and wisdom to choose what is right. Stop depending on others to rescue you. You have immense potential to build and live your life no matter what your mind, fears, and social conditions make you believe. This means trusting and believing in yourself!

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