Failure – no-one likes it, and yet it is something we all do often. In each painful scenario of our failure, we put in a lot of hard-work and effort which ends up in disappointment. We fail because either things do not go according to our plan, or things happen that require us to adjust in ways that limit or prevent us from achieving our goal. For many of us, failure is heart-breaking and discouraging – but just like there are two sides of a coin, there are two sides to failure.
It is important to know that it is our failure that we learn from, not our success. Failure is the inevitable roadmap, while success is the destination. It is what teaches us gratitude and to be humble once we have reached success.
When you fail to meet your objective, you receive information about what you need to do to meet your goal the next time. The journey might be long and hard, but that doesn’t mean you should give up. Learn to change the plan, not the goal. As Henry Ford said, “failure is simply an opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Failure makes us live our experience more intently. As a result, the information that we receive through our experience is embedded in us emotionally and within our actions. For example, with each obstacle, you become more determined in your approach and more courageous in your journey.
Failure builds your confidence and teaches you to be more tolerant and patient. It teaches how to endure and deal with hardships. It reminds you that the greater truth about your endurance is in the entire journey. Your deepest confidence does not stem from the single moment that you cross the finish line. Instead, it lies in the thousands of moments you experience when you finally make it.
If you do not know what it takes and how hard it is to achieve a big goal, failure will show you exactly that. Failure forces you to ask yourself just how much you really want your goals. It forces you to decide how to proceed. You can choose to change your goals, commit more deeply, or let go and move onto something else. Bad conditions can bring out your best, because that is the moment when you truly realise what your goal means to you. The explosion of joy when you succeed is sweeter and more meaningful because of all your previous failures.
While failure is devastating to the psyche of the moment, it shows you what you are made of at a point in time, and gives you all the information and resources you need to figure out how to do better. Failure is painful during the process, but it can provide you with that roadmap of success.